Going back to the school days --memorable ones indeed with friends, fun and freedom except studies. Education system at times unknowingly instigates competitiveness and complex in the minds of the student. Scoring the highest marks and standing first is the ultimate expected from any student both from school and family. Worst is assessing the student from "On the spot" competitions. Then grading them as dull, good and intelligent. As students, they may accept their individual capacity and dont let their marks influence the interpersonal relationship as friends. But as they grow up, invariably you will find the influence of the mind playing havoc with the interpersonal relationships. You can come across in the working places, where each one has to express their talents and ability to bring out the best performance. Unaware of the hidden hurdle, one who has an innate ability to excel becomes an eyesore for the rest. Then the trouble begins silently seeping into their relationship too. What had no influence as children, with the mind developing(towards destruction) as adult, it affects. To minimize this, performing to one's own best and accepting the rest can certainly pave way to much more learning and arresting further dust from accumulating. Also, if the one who has the natural ability to excel is taught to play it cool, then the invisible hurdle can never creep in. To quote the Indian Spiritual Master Akshara,
"Realization not only liberates you but also teaches you to deal with yet to realize one"
A very important one indeed! can be inculcated from childhood itself --not just be a topper but remain as one with everyone.Its not about excelling but knowing to expose at the hour of the need and not always. It brings about the concern in every one around. Basically cheerful yet knowing when to laugh.